1. Don't expect anything from anyone- That way you’re not disappointed. If you make plans based on money you’re expecting from family and friends, you may sadly find that some are unable to give you as much as you expected, and others unable to give you anything at all. Cut your coat according to your fabric; anything else that comes in is a nice bonus

2. Don’t start planning your wedding until you both have agreed on a budget based on thorough research.

3. Do paint a clear picture of your wedding before you start planning. Will it be a big affair with lots of pomp or a simple blessing ceremony in the pastor’s office? Will you have a reception or give out take-away packs of food and drinks instead? Will you have a big wedding? Will it be a one-day, two-day or three-day affair? Will you have a bridal train or just your maid of honor and best man? Will you include children in your bridal train? If you will, who should be in charge of coordinating them? And so on...

4. Don’t forget about your friends. Regardless of whether they are married or single, true friends can help you remember what’s truly important when you’re feeling overwhelmed, and their counsel is invaluable. They can help you plan, raise funds, shop, and all the other nice things friends do for friends. They also help to make sure your life isn’t on hold just because you’re getting married

5. Do make sure that your maid of honor knows exactly what you need her to do. She is your personal assistant. Write notes/lists for her so she knows what to keep an eye on. Having someone who knows you well supervising things will help ensure that there are no photos of you craning your neck and frowning.