Is the person you are considering starting a relationship with the best match for you? If what you are looking for is something serious, then I suggest you pause and treat these questions as urgent.

If you ask your married friends and mentors “what the secret to their long happy marriage is, they’ll all give you the same answers; “I married my best friend.” … And those whose marriages did not succeed will give answers like “well, we are good lovers, but we never really learned how to be friends.”

Now ask yourself these simple questions;

 If we weren’t in love with each other, would we still be friends

 If I said NO to him/her, would the still love to hang out with me as friends

 If the answer to this question is ‘NO’, please pause whatever it is you two have got going on already.

Can I Talk To This Person about Everything?

Are there limit to the things you discuss in your conversations

Does the person get angry or look uninterested at some topics you share

Can you talk to this person openly without fear of being judged or criticized?

Just in case you didn’t know, 90% of what partners do in marriage is talk. There are 24 hours in a day, if you two are too spiritual you can pray together for 2hours, if boo is very strong the highest time you’ll have sex in marriage is 2 hours, that’s 4 hours gone, what you do with the remaining 20hours is talk! So you had better find someone who is ready to share similar topics of interest with you, and one who is ready to listen to you.

 Do We like Each Other’s Family?

First, if you too are good friends, and you can talk to each other about everything, then it is important for the next question to be about how comfortable you are with each other’s family members around. Are you in good friendship with this person’s parents, or siblings or even close friends?

Have you discussed a good detail about them?

Do you fancy his or her family beliefs and traditions?

Are they the sort of people you would like to make your “second family''?

Is She/he a Christian?

Not everyone who go to church is a Christian, Please do not settle for a relationship with anyone who do not share the same religious beliefs with you. There are good God-fearing Christians in town, you must not be with the one who only remembers how to pray on New Year’s Eve.  Does his love for God exceeds his desire for you?