Why Won’t He Commit? 14 Signs He has Commitment Phobia
Wednesday, July 12, 2017
Does
he make you feel unwanted but still claim to ‘love' you? We know exactly what
you’re going through. If his attitude towards love, relationships and
commitment are anything but transparent (more like nonexistent), he probably
has commitment phobia. Avoid the heartbreak and confusion and check out these
15 unexpected signs he can't commit before it's too late.
1.
He’s a total charmer
At
first, they can be extremely charming and give you all the love and attention
you need. Until, he knows he’s got your love locked down. This is when his less
attractive side begins to show
2.
He loves the chase
…but
the catch? It’s not half as exciting. He will push back as soon as you start
getting too close but as soon as you pull away their love for you has no end.
Exhausting.
3.
He has a history of infidelity
Make
sure to quiz your man before you commit to anything serious. A dude with a
string of broken relationships and affairs is bad news for any girl. NO
exceptions.
4.
You feel like your relationship has reached a dead end
Not
fulfilled by your man anymore? Things probably went fast paced at first,
seeming almost too perfect, but now it feels like things have come to a sudden
halt. You hear from him less, your emotional connection has fizzled out, you
don't spend as much time together... these are classic signs of a fearful man
getting too close.
5.
Lying is second nature to him
Lying
about what he’s doing or where he is gives him a sense of freedom and space. It
also make him feel powerful. They hate being controlled and confined to a
single relationship, he needs to know he has total control over what you do
together. Nothing less, nothing more.
6.
He gets bored easily
Texts
become scarce, calls zero to none…they want to have the freedom to still shop
around. What (or who) is keeping your man from dialing?
7.
The ‘I don’t want a label’ excuse
Otherwise
known as the biggest BS excuse known to women. We’ve heard it all before -
‘I’ve been hurt bad’, ‘I don’t believe in labels’, ‘I like to take things
slowly’… Let’s go with the flow. Please, save your breathe only dead fish go
with the flow.
8.
No personal stuff
If
leaving your personal stuff like your earring, toothbrush, and clothes at his
is still a problem, he may not want you to think the relationship is a
‘permanent’ one. Interrogate him! (You have every right.) After a reasonable
amount of time there shouldn't be any excuse not to.
9.
He travels for work
Traveling
a lot is a recipe for instability in any relationship, but for someone afraid
of commitment! It's perfect. He will never have to commit to a regular schedule
with you, giving him more freedom to do exactly what he wants. He also has a
lot of opportunities to be unfaithful too. Hmm not a good sign.
10.
You haven’t met each others’ friends, family, or co-workers yet
They
compartmentalize different aspects of their lives and will make every excuse
not to let you get in the way of them.
11.
He blames you for being crazy
He
makes you feel like you’re ‘overreacting’ or too ‘overbearing’. Even worse, he
says you’re a drama queen for nagging him about not seeing each other enough.
12.
He’s into gambling, drinking or drugs
If
he has an addiction to any of the above, chances are, he’s not very happy with
his life. So if he can’t commit to himself, how’s he gonna commit to you? Ask
yourself.
13.
He treats you like a mistress rather than a GF
If
your man’s not committed, you’re probably not high up on his list of priorities
either. Does he check in regularly? Make you dinner sometimes? Introduce you as
his girlfriend (very important)? Make sure he’s treating you like a GF and not
just a side chick.
14.
He never uses the word 'we'
'Marriage'
and 'forever' can be pretty daunting to hear even for romantic types! But if
'we' isn't part of his vocabulary yet you might want to question his intentions
in it all. Where does he see himself in 10 years’ time? If you're not in it,
then the relationship is probably not for you.
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